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Thursday, February 01, 2007

just waiting for u to say the word....i do..BLARGH!

Who believes in the idea of marriage raise up ur hands? i can see most of the people are raising up thier hands o.o

Who have even given a wedding a thought? a wedding with lillies of the valley lined up on the isle for the christians or having ur hands sprinkled with bunga sumthing sumthing on ur wedding day for the malays?....have ever thot of becoming "raja sehari" someday?

I, as unconventionalist and who breaks from traditions, dont. In fact im very sceptical on the idea of marriage.

Marriage has been defined as a reunion of the opposite sex in matrimony and recognized by law.

To certain part of the world, marriage is an escape. Parent wed thier daughters to release themselves from burden. Some part of the world, marriage symbolises love. Maybe, marriage is the correct way to repocreate.

Marriage, can be deceiving. Its not that it can be deceiving, but IT IS. People put happiness into the thought of marriage, but nothing do they know what was coming ahead. Why are we deluded and forced into marriage?

Because our old nagging aunties talk and force us into it? Because wanna have children? or are we simply pushed into the idea of marriage by society. Maybe simply because our religeon says so?

Lets put religeon aside...

When you put religeon aside, marriage doesnt mean anything anymore. Why cant two people in love stay together without being bound by a contract? The difference between married couple and non married couple is the contract. Bound by papers and signatures. is it necessary?

More and more married couple and heading towards splitsville, when they are so much happier without marriage. Somehow, when two people are married, unrealistic hopes formed, making us much more vulnerable to dissapoinments and delusion.

At last when they are divorced, money will become the main object of dispute and so are the rights for custody. Who suffers from this? The kids and the couple.

So why i ask again, do we put ourselves into this illusion? Marriage is just mere illusion. Happy thoughts are always involved with marriage. Like the say, "angels from heaven smile upon them" who marries, but i believe greater happiness and satisfaction can be obtained from love without the idea of marriage.

Like Jonhney depp, who was married once but divorced. Now he has a "wife" with two children (i think), and they have been together for 8 years. Believe or not they are not married, i think simply because Johnny Depp doesnt believe in marriage.

I just despise the idea, that someday, everybody will find thier prince charming and get married someday. If you're not married, you're looked down upon by ur "aunties" and other part of the society. Somehow, if u break out from the norm everybody will raise an eyebrow and start questioning. Why why why they ask, and if the answers are not good enough, conjectures will be made.

Saying," i think she's barren", or "she has been divorced" or "she has problems larh.."

Why is it when some people are not married, they are often associated with the word "problem", 'illness' or "social phobic"? watever rite yeong ren..-.-

It's hard to explain things, when it confuses me so much. But in a nutshell, i dont believe in the idea of marriage because

1) we are only bound by law and contract. its a weak reason to persuade me.

2)why is it when we're married and subsequently divorced, money becomes the object of dispute?

3) thirdly when women are married esp in Islam, women are cut short from thier womanly rights. Cant seek for divorce, or will ever be associated with divorce. Usually, when a couple is divorced most of the blames will go to wives (esp in malays society), saying that the wives cant take care of the husbands well and what not...

4) its just mere illusion of happiness.The society is axxegerating the idea of marriage and making us a fool for marriage.

5)We are unconsciously, being forced into marriage by the society. It is a norm for every individual to get married. It's like a duty to be fullfiled and when we dont, we're pressured into it. Hello it's already the 20th century! wake up aunties!

6)People say, marriage is a step forward for those couple in love. Why should it make any difference whether u have a contract or not when you're in love? Just because the society says u HAVE TO? SINCE WHEN DID THE SOCIETY TAKE CONTROL OVER OUR LIVES?

7)"Remember, dear friends, that marriage is sacred only when people make it sacred. The law of the country can make you legally husband and wife but only your love and faith can consummate a true and sacred union", a quotation by Judo Shinshu. Nvm about him, but i believe a person can be "spiritualy" united with sincere love. Why do we still need marriage then o we can be so much happier without, than having a document to proof "true and scared union"?

It is we, who make it sacred. So no need for traditional weddings and marriage. People only use wedding and marriage as an escape from "watever" problems they have.

8) i think its much more romantic to be with the person you love most for the rest of your life without marriage, than with marriage. Hell with wedding diamonds...as yeong ren said " when my soon to be bride wants a diamond ring right, i'll ask her to watch blood diamond". Pretty true

It just confuses me why, marriage is a big deal. Probably because of religeon. I think its time for me to brush up on my agama. I'm becoming an atheist more than im realising it now.

Marriage? u decide, but its not my cup of tea. So is to having kids.

Im a sucker for romantic stuff...so i think its much more romantic to stay faithful to a person without being bound by papers and vows. Everybody can make and break a vow.

But can anybody break your faith and loyalty to someone not blood related to u?

by Zephyr at 8:21 AM |