Wednesday, May 06, 2009
Usual nonsensical ranting that doesnt make sense. Dont read!!!
Most of the things in life revolve around law of attraction. The desire to mate, the desire to eat, the desire to succeed, and the desire to do anything basically depends on how attractive that certain object is.I believe love is one of those attractive things in life.
The stranger sitting beside you maybe share the same attribute of your boyfriend-the way he talks, laughs, shakes his feet about, or the way he puts his palms in his pocket when he is nervous but you could never feel the same about him they way you feel about your boyfriend . That is partly because your brain learns to distinguish the both of them as two different individual. You're brain has developed a halo around your special someone and thus making him look more attractive than the other person.
Love is just the thing of the mind.
This current person that you seem to have a crush on may seem much more handsome than any other guys you've seen, smarter than most men you've met, more appealing than others, and seems to be better than everybody else and that's because you're brain has decided to portray such images in your mind. Most people fall in love with the idea that they have generated around this special someone rather than with the reality. Hence, many have to live with the disappointment after discovering that this special someone is as ordinary as other people out there.
Many have told me that I've never experienced love and that's partly because I refuse to acknowledge it. I may be experiencing a crush based on idyllic images but I don't care what it is! I just want it to stop right now!!!!
Zeph focus on reality, reality, reality, reality, reality, reality, reality, reality!!!!!
I think I'm failing miserably. Help...
by Zephyr at 12:47 PM |
1 Comments:
Crush, Infatuation and Love. Attraction can be categorized in these three. These cant be mixed up.
Nobody is perfect. Neither i , nor you or anybody. So looking for Mr/Miss Perfect is an absolute foolishness. Love is not about finding similarities, its all about respecting differences. Love is not about being perfect or seeking perfectness. Its all about
understanding imperfectness ,perfectly. You are wise enough to understand, only thing i would request you to spare a second on it.
Everything is relative in this universe. Nobody, i would rather say, nothing is absolute good or absolute bad. Today whome you thing is best , tomorrow he can become the worse as you have already found somebody better than the previous one.
Its a neverending chain/process. More you run behind this , more you get lost. Its a mirage. If we try to find goodness or badness in somebody, we do use our brain. Which is totally irrelavent to Love.
In love we don't use brain in conscious level, it does all tricks in sub-conscious level, which we say kinda "My Heart says". We would feel , if we are really in love. May be we will be in confused, "Is this really Love" Then we just need to give time to it. Time will tell what was or is it. Let it go the way its going, one fine day our mind would be clear.Don't squiz it, don't neglect it. But if we dont want it, just forget about it. Dnt think /talk about it for some time , it will get flushed away.
Even though its there , dude some thing is cooking ... ;)
A crush can not be love or vise versa. Those carries completely different attributes.A relationship can start with a simple crush then love. But both can not coexist.
Crush is liking somobody, which is normally the mere beginning of Love. But its not obvious a crush will end up with Love.
Crush is a quick event, Love takes time. If we are ok with going further , we should give some time to it ...
If you are only in 'Crush' mode and don't wanna go further, its pretty easy to get out of it.Normal ways are
"Out of sight , Out of mind"
"Some thing else"
"Some body else, not in same shoes"
Some times we see somebody and feel that he or she is the one, or he/she has everything whih i am looking for.
But many cases, if start finding the imperfectness in him/her. Wiredly , things, which we dont want in her/him becomes visible ... Because thats the truth.
According to me, in these cases, rather than letting thoughts haunting you, we should be concentrating in something which we really wanna do in life. Something creative. Some thing we think and dream of doing in life.
If still we are confused,just need to ask ourselves,
"Do i like him?"
"Do i wanna get along with him"
"Do i feel like taking it a bit futher"
"Do i feel like staying with him in future/ spending my future with him" (Its all about feelings)
- If any of these , answers NO. Then go watch a cartoon movie. Else you can give a try. With time you will come to know what you should do.We just need to be a bit intelligent to sense something quickly. which i think you are more than required.
I alaways say a big NO NO to
"Is she/he PERFECT for me?" - Crap it is.
All the very best my friend. i wish you get what you want ... mental peace, freedom ... I wish you feel free. Free Free Free.
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