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Friday, June 22, 2007

Sex education. My fave subject.

Have you ever noticed when you were or are in school, the guys talk about sexuality openly meanwhile girls try to shy off from these conversations and act all puritan about it? Like when guys say something about masturbating some of the girls would have the ick look on their faces or would most probably wail out the word 'yeeeeeeeeeeeerrrrrrrrr' or "eewww, damn disgusting lah you people".

Sometimes, when one or two girls join these conversations, most of the girl will shoot looks of disgust towards these two girls and start indulging themselves in vicious gossiping sessions? I've been the open-minded girl and I've been the puritan. I've been both. Don't say I'm a hypocrite but I am just sexually confused, and mainly because of our non-spoken rules about sexuality in our society now.

Guys are pressured by peers or society to run around and plant as much of their "seeds" as possible in vaginas meanwhile women are pressured to be the "gatekeeper of sexuality". Funny isn't it?

Example when guys were younger, it seems okay for them to play with their genitals while urinating and when it comes to girls it seems "dirty" and "obscene". Isn't it right?

The same goes when it comes to masturbation. Guys talk about masturbation almost all the time and it seems that they do it more than the number of time they talk about it? They at least do it once a week. However, when it comes to girls she sends off the message as 'slut' to other people.

So doesn't it seem like our society thinks girls are not entitled to have sexual pleasure as guys can? We talk about gender inequality and I feel this is one of them. A discrimination but not an intentional one. I feel like it's just unfortunate girls fall into these traps because of our ancestors who believed the only worth in the girl's life is her virginity. It's no longer the same girls, so just go out and demand for your sexual pleasure and rights. *wink wink*

Sad to say girls still do not know how important their sexuality is; how much freedom they should be entitled to and not to fall under this "puritan" image that girls think they should adhere to. I have few friends who thinks being sexually active and healthy is wrong. She finds it irksome because girls should have an image to live to. This is rubbish. I reckon go for it but play safe and another advice is: do keep all the details to yourself.

Sexual liberation is for all girls to enjoy. Don't be shy I say. The more you know how much you deserve the safer you are from this "goal-orientated sex game". Meaning, when it comes to sex most guys know only about grinding and shooting semen. They find it a goal to do this. Most of the time, girls fake orgasm because she thinks it's not important as her partner's sexual satisfaction. They fall under the trap where they believe they have to have sex in order to gain love and loyalty for their so called "special significant" one. Rubbish!!!!

Not being comfortable with our sexuality draws us to much much more problems. We fall into this web of confusion and guilt when we do dive into sex. We believe we are being immoral and being "sluts" when we derive pleasure from it (pre-marital sex). We feel guilty and we feel we're worthless. You would have to feel this way if you do live in the 16th century. Now we live in the 21st century, so do not fall into these trap I believe.

I had a good talk with Terri and Brendan about sexuality. Both of them have the same opinions as I do about sexuality. We love sex and we're not shy about it. I used to be shy to talk about sexuality but I am longer the same. It's either you like or you don't. It's either you agree with my opinion or not.

It's just like this, it's okay for guys to swear but it's not nice for ladies to swear so much coz she seems unlady-like or just plain rude? I don't see the difference. I do not want to fall into these image where a lot more decency is expected and required from girls but not the same to men. It's just the same like it's okay for every guy to become a player and fuck every girls but it's not nice for girls to go around and have sexual pleasure just for the sake of liking it?

Doesn't it seem like our society look down on girls to have sexual pleasure just because they like it and they enjoy it? However doesn't it seem like our society does not object guys being promiscuous and to having sex just because they enjoy it? We're so twisted.

Guys can scoot free with everything meanwhile girls have social code to adhere to. I shall not comprise my rights and entity to sexual pleasure because of what our society thinks. I am who I am; the person who thinks sex is a natural course in life and nothing to be ashamed of. Word of precaution: Do play safe. Winkz!

Fiona is my post still too long?

However I do respect girls who thinks abstinence is the best way. You believe it for many reasons of course and this post is not directed to you. This post is for those confused, judgmental and two faced girls out there when it comes about sex. They act all puritan about it until it makes me sick but they turn out to be the other way around. Seriously.

by Zephyr at 7:30 AM |